I got an ask from unreconstructedfangirl about consensual sexual sadism, specifically in Four Corners of the Western World. Quoted with permission: My very deep sympathy with your characters makes me really feel what [their relationship] means, how it’s who they are, and must be honored. I just really struggle to make peace with the idea of someone really liking to hurt someone else sexually, and still finding them sympathetic. It scares me, and I can’t quite see the health in it. It makes me much more uncomfortable than the idea of wanting to be hurt, which I can, to some extent, understand.
I said I’d do a post on the subject, as unreconstructedfangirl is probably not the only person who finds it hard to get their head around this.
"The ability of a partner to understand and accept what you want, no matter how socially unacceptable, and convert it to pleasure, is a form of grace."
Penny, you take my breath away.
Anonymous said: what does fucking nancy think of homophobia? (i had a pretty bad day :( )
(Have a big hug ♥)